Bidding to make a change

Steve Kendall | Bendigo Weekly | 02-Dec-2011 4.22PM

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Last Friday was big. The Biggest Ever Blokes Lunch and White Ribbon Day were both spreading the word.

IT happens in films and comedy skits, and it’s finally happened to me.
I was at the Biggest Ever Blokes Lunch last Friday and was taken up in the excitement of it all.
A few drinks, a burger or two and a chunk of chicken caveman style and I was having a whale of a time.
The speeches and games had happened, Nick from work had woken up after his afternoon nap, and all was set for the auction.
It was a fundraiser for prostate cancer research after all.
The bidding was frantic and generous, and all items went beyond the suggested value.
One was hovering around the $1000 mark and I was distracted by an empty beer bottle. Mine.
Luckily I saw Ashleigh weaving through the tables clutching a few bottles of joy.
I waved to gain her attention.
“Thanks Steve, the bid is now at $1200,” said auctioneer Keith Sutherland.
Ouch, thankfully my negative response showed I had bid in error and I managed to extricate myself from a costly mistake.
But how silly to fall for that one, after all of the movies it happens in.
I was too shocked to have a beer for a while, and laughed it off as if I had done it for a joke. Bloody idiot.
I have no idea what I nearly bought, could have been a set of golf clubs for all I know.
That would have been a real waste, as I can’t play, and have no desire to.
May have had to take it up for a good cause.
Talking of good causes, along with the prostate cancer awareness fundraiser, Friday was big for another reason.
It was White Ribbon Day.
It is a valid project to highlight domestic violence and reduce, if not stop, violence against women.
It aims to bring out in the open the horrors and incidence of unacceptable violence, and to encourage respect for women.
They are on to a winner, because who could disagree with the cause?
Certainly not me.
I do disagree with the tactic of asking men to sign a pledge not to hit women.
I actually find it offensive for someone to consider I am capable of the act and want to bind me to a promise.
Anyone who bashes their wife would sign and break the pledge, and the majority, myself included, wouldn’t dream of it anyway.
I find the whole pledge idea pointless and mere tokenism.
Except of course to raise awareness of the cause, which it has done. Congratulations.
I think the white ribbon focus needs to shift a bit.
Alongside the current message, parents need to be telling their children violence is not an option in life.
It’s too late to tell an adult not to harm his wife. By then it’s a deep-rooted problem that may have been there since youth.
Parents must tell their children it’s not OK to hit someone, to harm an animal, or call someone a name just because they are from another country.
Teach them to respect everyone equally.
Make bigotry and misogyny taboo subjects and respect of others as a matter of course.
To force innocent people to sign a pledge against something so outlandish would not be needed, if the situation was not allowed to rise in the first place.
It needs to be on the school agenda, and on the agenda of every parent, grandparent, carer, teacher and anyone who has an input into the social education of our young.

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